Bless Your Way To Success
by Serge Kahili King
You may already be familiar with the idea of blessing, either from our booklet, "The Aloha
Spirit," or from one of our classes or courses, so I'm going to expand on the idea in order to
help you expand your use of it.
To begin with, some of you have witnessed or experienced the muscle test we use to demonstrate the
power of blessing, but many others have not. Therefore I'll start with this extremely interesting
phenomenon, because blessing is not just spiritually good, it's physically good as well.
When you bless someone or something, that is, when you compliment it, praise it, thank it or just call
it good in some way, your own subconscious responds by relaxing your body and increasing your energy
flow. Even though you've directed the blessing to someone or something else, you benefit physically.
It's easy to demonstrate this with muscle testing. Just have someone stand up and raise his/her arm
straight out from the shoulder. Tell him/her to hold the arm up strong when you say
"Resist," then push down smoothly on the person's wrist so you can get a sense of his/her
normal strength. Don't push down all the way - you are not trying to overcome his/her strength - but
just enough so you know how well he/she can resist. Then have the person silently criticize someone
and let you know when he/she has done it. When you know, say "Resist" and push the arm down
again. You will find that the arm comes down easier this time, often dramatically so. This is because
the person's subconscious has taken the criticism personally (remember, "There Are No
Do the same test again with the person giving a compliment to someone this time and you will find that
the arm has grown stronger, often much so, because the subconscious has also taken the compliment
personally, has relaxed and freed up more energy to resist with.
Basically, criticisms of yourself or others cause your body to tense, and compliments to yourself or
others cause your body to relax. Curses cause stress, blessings reduce it. Using blessings alone can
improve your health tremendously, and sometimes that's all that's needed. In a recent workshop a woman
asked me what to do when someone else criticizes you. As we demonstrated, the most efficient and
effective thing to do is to immediately contradict them aloud or silently, with a self compliment. You
can bless your way to success in health.
So many people have problems with their relationships, and yet a very easy and workable solution is
available. No matter what kind of relationship it is, nor what the intent when you communicate, the
fact is that if you give more criticisms than compliments you tend to destroy it, and if you give more
compliments than criticisms you tend to enhance it. Nagging is deadly to a relationship because it is
simply overt or implied criticism and it doesn't work to make the person better or you happier.
If there is any person or group or persons that you don't get along with, it is because you have a
critical attitude toward them. You get along with whomever you do because you ignore their faults, or
at least don't consider them as important as their good qualities, and because you do compliment them
on those good qualities. In other words, you bless more than you curse. It's a simple thought but
true, that if you want to be totally in love with someone, see and acknowledge only their good. To the
degree that you don't, the relationship will suffer. So you can bless your way to success in love,
May these few ideas help you on your path as you bless your way to success.
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